Wednesday, January 19, 2011

A Real Tiger Mother


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Here's my indirect response to the whole Amy Chua/Tiger Mom broo-ha-ha. I don't see what the big deal is actually other than the title of the article.

Ultimately, she's made sure that she hasn't raise spoiled brats who feel entitled to everything and anything. She wanted them to grow up into responsible and hard-working adults. What's so bad about that?

Seriously.

No sleepovers? Ok...I went through that, but was it the end of the world? No. Violin lessons that took up my weekends? Well, it gave me something to do (altho I'm glad my mom never made me practice for two hours at a time with no bathroom breaks). Did she call me garbage? No, but she always told me that she found me in the garbage dumpster.

She ruled with fear and authority and I'm glad she did.

The thing about growing up with poor, immigrant parents is that, for the most part, you understand how much was sacrificed for you. So then, you do all you can to make them proud to make it all worth it -- well, that and you best be supporting them financially when they get all old. :P

But, I give props to Amy Chua since no one else is cuz everyone seems to be horrified by her.

And sorry, but her mothering technique is tame compared to what I went through with MaMa Chan.

Anyhow, to each his/her own.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Why Chinese Mothers are Superior

So this article in the Wall Street Journal has been making the rounds on the innanet lately. There's been a bit of controversy regarding Amy Chua's parenting techniques.

Chinese parents can get away with things that Western parents can't. Once when I was young—maybe more than once—when I was extremely disrespectful to my mother, my father angrily called me "garbage" in our native Hokkien dialect. It worked really well. I felt terrible and deeply ashamed of what I had done. But it didn't damage my self-esteem or anything like that. I knew exactly how highly he thought of me. I didn't actually think I was worthless or feel like a piece of garbage.

As an adult, I once did the same thing to Sophia, calling her garbage in English when she acted extremely disrespectfully toward me. When I mentioned that I had done this at a dinner party, I was immediately ostracized. One guest named Marcy got so upset she broke down in tears and had to leave early. My friend Susan, the host, tried to rehabilitate me with the remaining guests.

Some are really upset, but I myself find it hilarious. Hey, if she wants to impart some craziness to her children then that's her thing. Also, calling your kid garbage in English vs Chinese loses its effect -- it's more harsh in Chinese (I think).

The only thing I take offense to is the title of the piece. Chinese mothers are superior? Ummm...they're more like bat-shiyat crazy...like ALL mothers.

I could address it in my comic, but I have my own crazy mother character to portray.

:)

[found via Angry Asian Man]

Sunday, January 2, 2011

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